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Belonging vs. Loneliness: Guest Post by Ann Marie Carley

14 Feb 2024 1:45 PM | Jen Burch (Administrator)

As camp professionals, especially as faith-based camp professionals, Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion is not simply a program we can subscribe to, it is a way of life that is non-negotiable. We cannot simply say all are welcome, we must cultivate a culture that values diversity, fights for equality, and includes all campers, staff, family units, and volunteers in authentic ways.


The difficulty is that ultimately, what we’re really trying to foster is a culture of belonging, and the idea of belonging is countercultural for most young people today. So many of those we seek to serve are in an almost constant state of feeling alone, even when surrounded by people. Being alone is exclusive, unjust for the gospel message, and devalues the beauty of diversity. Loneliness does not foster belonging. Research shows that young people today have 70% fewer interactions with others over the past two decades (How bad is loneliness for your health? Maybe worse than smoking (fastcompany.com)). On top of that, we also know that young people who feel marginalized are at more risk of isolation. As a result, the data shows that the young people of today will face more health challenges in the future, especially if loneliness continues (Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation (hhs.gov)).


Here is the good news: people are paying attention and have defined the problem. Family units are paying attention and most want better for the children in their care. More good news: our camps can be a part of the healing process. At camp, we have a unique opportunity to bring people together in a setting that is different from their everyday life. Our “sacred places apart” provide a natural break in the structures that can lead to loneliness. At camp, we are able to foster safe social interactions which lead to community building. In The Loneliness Epidemic, researcher Susan Mettes argues that we do not have a loneliness problem, but a relationship problem. As faith-based professionals, we know the importance of a relationship with God and a relationship with others. How do we start? ACA’s Camping magazine published an article in 2021 entitled Camp and the Loneliness Crisis (Camp and the Loneliness Crisis | American Camp Association (acacamps.org)). Intended to help reintegrate and connect following isolating Covid pandemic experiences, its suggestions still apply as we seek to create spaces of connection and belonging. 


The themes of the Inside Out curriculum for this summer are right on time in bringing the resources of our faith to the conversation. All of God’s beloved children are Linked by Love, a love that is not fallible and so steadfast that it links us not just to God, but one another. Regardless of the curriculum, may we intentionally craft camp experiences that help to build a sense of belonging through working together as a group, having conversations about scripture, and reflecting on common experiences. Be encouraged in the work we do to make camps and retreats safe for diverse populations, whether people feel marginalized by racism, differing abilities, socioeconomic background or other diverse circumstances. These ministries have unique strengths that can help campers and staff alike begin healing from loneliness and experience communities of belonging.




Ann Marie Carley serves as Director of Camps, Retreats, and Next Gen Engagement for the West Ohio Conference. She is a former educator and pastor and an ordained Deacon in the United Methodist Church. Find her in her element hiking, biking, swimming or creating holy mischief.


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