Grab your coffee. Let me tell you a story.
I felt the call to ministry in middle school. Maybe you know that feeling during youth group where you just know God is calling you to something? That was me. But I never felt drawn to becoming a pastor. While I can fill a pulpit when needed, ordination just never felt like my path.
After college, I started living with this posture of openness. When needs would arise, I'd say "Ok God, if you can use me, I will serve." Doors would open. Sometimes things didn't work out the way I expected, but I kept trying to say yes when I felt the Spirit's leading. Staying focused on my calling instead of chasing after what the world says I should want? That was hard sometimes. But I kept showing up.
For years, I thought becoming a Deacon might be my next step. As a United Methodist, that seemed like the only option for continuing my ministry journey as someone not becoming an Elder. The world has this way of telling us that all ministry positions are just stepping stones to becoming clergy (“real ministers”). I know that's not true, but this subtext is pervasive, both in and outside the church. Here's the thing, though–Jesus taught that we're all called to be ministers.
I could have found purpose as an Elder or a Deacon. I don't believe there's only one right path in life. But I never felt that pull toward the commitments of a clergy person. Looking back, I can see the Spirit was leading me somewhere different.
There's something powerful about lay leadership. When a layperson leads, it reminds everyone that ministry isn't just for pastors. It shows that we can walk through life together, sharing the hope of Jesus side by side. Church isn't something we watch happen, we're all part of it.
When the Pieces Started Coming Together
I'd heard the term "Deaconess and Home Missioner" for years. Honestly? It went in one ear and out the other. I had no idea what it meant.
My friend Christina, who recently was consecrated as a Deaconess, changed that for me. She's been living out her calling in incredible ways here in the Illinois Great Rivers Conference. When I heard she was going through the DHM program, I was inspired to actually figure out what this was about. Some people's testimony carries weight because of how they serve, and Christina is one of those people.
I wanted to know if becoming a Home Missioner would help me grow in my faith journey and learn more about ministry. So I started asking questions.
Here's what I discovered: The United Methodist Church has three orders of ministry, not two. Most people know about Elders and Deacons. Those are the clergy orders. But there's a third order specifically for laity called Deaconesses and Home Missioners, which has been around for over 150 years.
Deaconesses and Home Missioners are laypeople called to make a lifetime commitment to ministries of love, justice, and service. We're part of a covenant community. The motto captures the foundational ethos: "I serve neither for gratitude nor reward but from gratitude and love; my reward is that I may serve."
The Community I Found
United Women in Faith runs the discernment and formation process, and they've built something special. Instead of creating barriers for lay people called to ministry, they remove them. They pay for all the classes. You can take classes online or attend intensives like the one I did in Chautauqua, New York. They understand life is complicated and offer real compassion as candidates work through discernment.
The people I met through the program blew me away. They came from all over the world, serving in wildly different contexts, education, social work, community organizing;... all kinds of ministry. We weren't working toward the same job or position, but we all felt called to ministries of love, justice, and service.
Learning about how God is working in different parts of the world, in contexts so different from mine, opened my eyes. Just being in conversation with this community helped me see God's presence in places I would have overlooked before. We shared our discernment stories with each other, which helped each of us work through our own calling.
The classes were some of the best I've ever taken. The teachers brought real wisdom. They didn't just assign books. We talked with people who had lived these experiences firsthand, who had devoted their lives to this work. That mix of practical application and deeper learning was exactly what I needed.
Nothing felt like busy work. Even the classes I wasn't sure about turned out to be engaging and valuable. The discussions helped all of us continue discerning as we followed the Spirit's leading. I could take what I was learning and immediately apply it in my own context.
I made friendships that will last a lifetime. I didn't expect that, but it might be one of the greatest gifts of this whole process.
What Grounds the Work
I serve as Coordinator of Missions and Outreach for the Illinois Great Rivers Conference, and I'm becoming a Home Missioner. These four pillars shape everything I do:
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Alleviate suffering
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Eradicate causes of injustice and all that robs life of dignity and worth
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Facilitate the development of full human potential
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Share in building global community through the church universal
These give focus to ministry no matter what context one is serving in. They're not abstract ideas, they're the framework for how we engage with the world.
One aspect that really speaks to me is that Deaconesses and Home Missioners believe discernment is a lifelong journey. There's no finish line. We just keep discerning together, learning together.
I've been on this journey since middle school. At this stage of my life, I now know that journey of faith and service doesn't stop; you just keep listening, keep following, keep saying yes when the Spirit leads. Being part of a community that embraces that reality, that doesn't expect you to have everything figured out, that walks alongside you in ongoing discernment – that has been a priceless gift.
Maybe You're Feeling It Too
I'm sharing this because maybe something is stirring in you right now.
Maybe you've felt a similar call but couldn't name it. Maybe you've wrestled with whether to pursue clergy orders, but keep coming back to feeling called as a layperson. Maybe you just know deep down that church isn't something to watch, it's something we do together.
Or maybe you've never heard of DHMs before and you're curious about this path that's been quietly changing the world for over 150 years.
The discernment process is a gift in itself. If you feel called to love, justice, and service as a layperson, a vocation as a Deaconess or Home Missioner might be worth exploring.
What if that persistent nudge you've been feeling isn't random? What if it's been pointing you somewhere specific this whole time?
You can learn more at uwfaith.org/what-we-do/deaconess-and-home-missioner.
The journey of discernment doesn't end, it just goes deeper. And you don't have to walk it alone.
Is the Spirit stirring something in you? Ready for another cup of coffee while we talk about your calling?
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Curt Franklin's camping ministry journey began in the early 90s as a camper. In 2000, he attended a leadership camp and began serving as a counselor, launching a path that took him through summer staff roles to full-time camping and youth ministry leadership in the Illinois Great Rivers Conference, where he now serves as Coordinator of Missions and Outreach and Youth Ministries and is a United Methodist Home Missioner.
Camping ministry remains one of his passions because of its unique ability to create sacred space where people encounter God through nature and community, experience unconditional love, take steps in their faith journey, and learn to recognize God's voice not just on the mountaintop but in everyday life.
Curt lives in Springfield, IL with his wife Kristin, who serves as the Episcopal Office Administrative Assistant for the IGRC, and they serve together in ministry. Contact Curt